Where do adults play?

"Mama can you stop the car and I play............wait here Mama neh.....don't leave me Mama neh!". That was Fefe, my 7 year old, excited about the Fluerhof kids park. She ran to the swing and she was instantly happy.

I thought to myself, "where do adults play"? Where do I find play parks for adults? This was not a new question at all. I asked myself this question when I was at the hospital. Two good therapists thought us how to do crafts, exercises and fun play in teams. I was wondering when I leave the hospital where will I find these fun craft and play groups in my community? I mean, it can't be that adults find fun in alcohol, sex or dance clubs!! There's gotta be some meaningful, harmless fun out there for adults. I am convinced, there's gotta be. It can't be work, work, work and more work. I mean, it is not sustainable that we bury ourselves in the computer all day and night to finally drown our sorrows in our blankets and for those who drink, "a glass of wine".

It was only when I was fasting, deep in prayer and expressing my anguish to God....that I asked Him.....Teach me to be happy, Lord? Teach me to be happy? I plea....Suddenly in a couple of days this blog was born. I use it as an open journal for my happiness. A youtube channel called "Happy Phathi/Happiness diaries" was born. I started to write about my perception and experience of tangible happiness. Simple happiness. Free happiness. Free happy exercises. Healthy eating, jazz, fun music from 5 fm, picnics, gifts, art, hikes, walks, health check up's, reading books, being there for friends, csi work, sewing, virtual galleries, restaurant lunches, high teas, drinking more water, lots of therapy, lots of emotional check in, lots of self care, bonding time with my daughter, my sisters kids and my fun crew. I have never been happier in my adult life...well obviously, the joy of the Lord will always precede any happiness in my life. See after God's deposit of joy in my life then my come after happiness!!

I have been learning about "Serotonin, dopamine, endorphins, and oxytocin help promote happiness and pleasure while reducing depression and anxiety. You can give these feel-good hormones a natural boost with some simple activities." and imparting the knowledge the ones close to me.

I am challenging myself to be happy all the time and work less on Sundays!! Keep me in your prayers to stay committed!!

I dedicate this blog to Ntokozo Nosipho Radebe Mngoma. A happy young woman who strives for a balanced and happy life everyday. Never hides behind a mask of being a wife, mother, employee, sister or daughter!! Continue fetching your life girl. You are my inspiration when it comes to fitness!!