Sometimes happiness is God healing you from trauma!!

-It is a wound from a Greek word, psychic wound, a scar in the mind or an imprint.

-The word trauma comes from the Greek trauma (τραύμα) meaning trauma wound, alteration of trōma; akin to Greek titrōskein = to wound, tetrainein = to pierce.

-Shows up in multiple times, it comes to hurt you

-Self respect is standing up bullies and systems that encourage such

-A person with addiction must change it themselves and they must acknowledge it themselves

-Human beings need to be seen

-Not attached to validations

-PEOPLE ARE FREE

-DO NOT SUCCUMB TO CO-ERCISION

-LEARN TO DE-INDENTIFY IN ORDER TO PROVE THE VALUE OF MY EXISTENCE

-Don't make anyone feel guilty for loving you less

-Truth is not a fact but an experience

-Rage has everything to do with the past

-Trauma is a disconnection to self and healing is the re-connection to self

-Triggers have nothing to do with present but the past

-I am healing if my past starts loosing grip on the present

-Rage leads to stroke at pressure point

-Wholeness is healing

-Healthy anger is boundary defence system

-Standing up for yourself is will and self respect

-Irreducible needs of a child is being welcomed

-Allow people to work on themselves

-Performance culture can hurt human needs

-Thriving includes happiness, surviving means going by

-Depression is pushing down my emotions

-Play in nature freely

-Rest from making the relationship work

-An intellect cannot embrace the truth but facts

-Allowance to go through all feelings

-Bullies have a laser to scan their victims

-Don't compare your trauma to the next person and do not undermine it

-Instant healings when we deal with ourselves

-Children need to be heard, held and supported. Otherwise they are trapped in the wound

-No one should push you to do anything

-Maintain alignment

-DO NOT ALLOW CULTURE TO HINDER YOU FROM BEING THROUGH TO YOURSELF

-Validate kids emotions

- People with trauma are rigid. Lacks sensation.

-Addiction is an unmanaged process

-More and more is a an addiction

-The wound I sustained

-HEALTH = WHOLENESS

-Trauma disconnects from our true self

-Addiction is slavery which is bondage to someone because the money could not be paid back = bondage = Where you have to work yourself to death.

-The moment you can't exercise any free choice or will then you are a slave to that

-Acknowledge your own suffering and do not get stuck on it. The don't for an apology. It might be too late or never come.

-Work can be addiction

-Personality is not us. It is the traits that we took to survive our childhood.

-The biggest lost is the loss of connection to ourselves

-In a scar tissue there is a genocide of authenticity

-Pay attention to the emotions as they are primary to all chronic deaseases

-Write a book for myself rather than anyone

-Change the relationship towards myself

-Children need to escape the wound

-CAPITALISM IS BAD. IT BREEDS INDIVIDUALISM.

-Defense mechanism is a wrong to diffuse pain

-Manage stress and trauma

-The capitalist framework developed a cut throat competition

-I can't be lost and altered in that

-Deliberate effort to create a community of family

-Value elders

-Authenticity. Be yourself.

-Over-identify with God not things or people

-Stop identifying with roles

-I AM A SON OF GOD

-Without vulnerability there is no growth

-No two kids are the same

-Elders has a lot to offer in society

-Defined by purpose rather than profession

-People get healed without being cured and people get cured without being healed

-Integrity of a person no longer split off themselves

-Acknowledge suffering

-Colonialism and capitalism divides people

-What are you saying to that the mind/or the body is not saying yes to

-I must learn to let go of the defences shielded by being right

-Suffering has to be acknowledged

-The past emotions showing in the present

-Nothing grows in a hard shell or cement

-Vulnerability is our capacity to be wounded from Greek. We are Christ like.

-We shut down vulnerability by being right, powerful and above the law.

-Everything in nature grows where we are vulnerable

-Children need rest from being compliant. My daughter does need to do anything to earn my love

-I accept uFefe as is

-Do not mollycoddle out of trauma

-Pain is part of life but it does not have to be traumatic

-Support a child when they are going through pain

-Trauma is what is happening inside you overtime not what happens to you hence Fefe and hence me!!

-Unconditional love and acceptance is what Fefe my daugther needs all my children needs

-Mamas message

-The good news is that trauma can heal at any time!!

-Fefe must not labor to get my affection no uncle Z

-Do not compromise uze wodlule amaMuslim

-Be patient with yourself even physically

-Accept the place where the Lord has given you support

-Stand firm in who I am and my values

-Understand adapt and manage my expectations. Don'r

LIST MY TRAUMAS BELOW

-Bruce & Mthetho rejecting my child - That pierced me - That shuttered me and I struggled to believe it and once processed. I struggled to de-process it.

-The relegation and the change at church Jan 2023

-Mthetho noThembelani undermining my friends, them saying they are not my family - The trans I went through

-Rejection by my mother

-Failed marriage

-Failed CA dream

-Tshikululu 5 years stint

-Sobantwana family

-Rejection by my sister

-The lies from my mother

-People using drugs take the wrong escape route

-Absent and premature death of my father

-Disowned by Sobantwana family

-At some point I remember saying I hate family because I desired it so much but it would give so much hurt. But Lord now I am praying for my own God fearing family (A loving God fearing husband and two kids) . You have thought how to squeeze love from it.

TRAUMAS TO ADDRESS

-Being forced to abandon my honours dreams to take Nanini to school and my mom not defending me.

-Ukuba zizikorobho zefamily with our mother selling to slavery and our Grandmother and God being our only defence.

-The invalidations of capitalism at Tshikululu

-Failed dreams as a CA(SA)

-Discarding Nkhensani

-Construing forgiveness and love at church

-Being broke for my mother athathe my last money ndingabinayo ne R20 yokugibela

-Rejection by family and running to Bruce on hearing the word marriage, being the cash cow for the Bruce & the family and seeking validations financially

-Rejection and relegation at church

-Ukuqhekezelwa eMfinizweni I always panick when I get a call

BOOKS TO BUY

-Parenting from the inside out